YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A VICTIM
How abusers take control of vulnerable persons, and the consequences affect health. Similarly, the effect causes sleepless nights, starvation, panic, anxiety, and anxiousness. Also, the results can create pain, swing mood, anxiety, and it can get worse.
Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of their relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his or her possession.
An abuser will do everything he or she can to make you feel bad about yourself or defective in some way. After all, if you believe you’re worthless and that no one else will want you, you’re less likely to leave. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless.
To increase your dependence on him or her, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world. He or she may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school. You may have to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone.
Threats –Abusers commonly use threats to keep their partners from leaving them into dropping charges. Your abuser may threaten to hurt or harm you, your children, other family members, or even pets. He or she may also threaten to commit suicide, file false charges against you, or report you to child services.
Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property, hurting your pets, or putting weapons on display. The clear message is that if you don’t obey, there will be violent consequences.
Denial and Blame
Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behaviour on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. Your abusive partner may minimise the damage or deny that it occurred. He or she will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his or her violent and abusive behaviour is your fault.
Source: Mid-Valley Women’s Crisis Service:
HEALTH IS WEALTH